Online dating sites....

So almost three years ago I ended a long relationship...more than just the relationship ended and entire life ended but it seems that no one wants that much info...It seems easier to just say I ended a relationship...anywho I digress~
I have met men in many places and curious ways since my new found singledom...At work~ what a nightmare....At the gym~usually bi...and occasional random places like the mall or a bookstore....But recently I have been investigating online dating websites...
So my review of several sites has led me to believe that men are just as lonely as women...WOW I have gotten some rather interesting pictures....some more graphic than others....I have recieved invitations that felt more like solicitation of sexual services....There was one who emailed me a "form" letter.....I have gone on 11 dates from these online sites...and out of these I would possibly date 2 of them again....The rest were not horrible or uninteresting men...its just I could understand why it is that they are single.....This leads me to think that if all of the men that are out there looking and all the women out there looking....are we looking for the right thing and how do we find each other to connect?...We are in an age of technology and advanced understandings...But why does it feel like the traditions and customs that mated male and female were better at matching us up?...I know a few women whose marriages were arranged as it were...Not a practice that is shown favorably often in hollywood...Three of the women I know whose husbands were picked for them had a choice of men that were pre-selected and they went on a meet and greet and said yes or no based on that.....Imagine if that were a mainstream practice....What if your Father and Mother selected Five candidates and you had to go on first dates with them and determine if they are the one for you....I know I am putting this in simplistic terms but the what if is so interesting......